The Eyes Have It

Dear Suzie,

I am a 64-year-old male who recognizes the importance of Tantric wisdom. It surprises me that when I do searches on the subject of the power of the eyes in sexual arousal, I find nothing! Why isn't this subject explored more? -- S.

Dear S.,

The eyes are indeed powerful allies. Tantric philosophy sees the open eye as a metaphor for an open life and an open heart.

To gain a more conscious awareness of how we use our eyes, pay attention to how you're using them. Notice if you don't meet someone's gaze. Notice when you do and how it makes you feel. Try giving a person you're having a conversation with your full attention with very open, attentive eyes and see if they become more comfortable and relaxed with you.

To enhance our intimacy and connection with our partners, keep soft lights on while you make love.

Lie or sit facing each other and simply eye-gaze for five minutes. This will be difficult for many people at first, but I encourage you to stick with it. Then, take it into your lovemaking. See the beauty in the person you are with. Soon you'll be wondering how you ever made love without having your eyes open.

Play some eye flirting games with your partner and ask them to use their eyes to express the emotions associated with rapture, longing, need, coyness and devotion. Then you try it. Use these expressions in your lovemaking.

Just as important as giving information with the eyes is receiving information. Keep your eyes soft and receptive and let your partner in. Take a deep breath and relax. Develop the capacity to soften to an even deeper level.

I hope that helped you a bit...and gave you a bit more insight to the windows of our souls.

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Learn about Kama Sutra, Tantra and other sexual disciplines from Suzie Heumann, president at Tantra.com.