All Tantric sex Q&A

Life is difficult enough when things happen to us that we can see coming, but to have something like this happen fast, without warning, is even harder.
I have empathy for you. I don't personally equate midwifery and birthing with "sex." It has much more to do with bringing a new human read more...

Tantra teaches us that there is personal growth possible when we risk our beliefs and stretch to try something new. I applaud you for even asking the question! You are being courageous!
It is VERY hard to overcome the beliefs and teachings from our parents, schools, ministers and community. Many read more...

We go through many stages in life with our bodies, our minds and our interests in life. It’s all changing, all the time. That can be a kind of curse or a possible blessing, depending on how you relate to it. As we age the hormone estrogen drops in level in our bodies and we women experience a read more...

The Taoist and Tantric practices of "retaining the seed" -- or, in modern terms, controlling ejaculation -- are excellent for recirculating the energy that can be derived from letting sexual energy build. As men age, it becomes important for them to harness this energy by learning to have read more...

Dear J.,
The ancient cultures from which Tantra arose had many god and goddess manifestations of the "one." The uniqueness of both male and female energies were recognized and honored.Today, especially during this current crisis, I find the feminine principles lacking in our lives. It's read more...

Dear B.,
Do you find that you have an addictive-type personality in other ways? Are you making love or having sex? Do you become completely vulnerable and open to personal breakthroughs when you make love? Ask yourself these questions.
Tantra and Tantric sex aren't the destination. Tantra is the read more...

Tantric philosophy has two seemingly different ideas about orgasm, the physical orgasm and the heart orgasm. At first appearance they may seem dualistic and contrary, but on closer inspection one supports the other perfectly.
On the one hand, we're encouraged to be in our hearts 24 hours a day. read more...

You've noticed that you can't really tickle yourself, but when it comes to pleasure, you can touch your skin erotically and feel it. To see what I mean, run your hand very gently over your forearm, just lightly brushing the hair. And when someone else is touching you, that touch has the capacity to read more...

Many factors can influence our sexual cycles. On the down side, lack of sleep, emotional stresses, age, a recent fight, and whether we feel desired may all contribute to the fall of desire. On the up side, a healthy lifestyle, getting enough sleep, love of work, gratitude, healthy relationships and read more...

Dear D.,
Tantric philosophy has two ideas about orgasm -- the physical orgasm and the heart orgasm. At first appearance they may seem dualistic and contrary, but on closer inspection one supports the other perfectly.
On the one hand, we are encouraged to be in our hearts 24 hours a day. This read more...

Dear S.,
The eyes are indeed powerful allies. Tantric philosophy sees the open eye as a metaphor for an open life and an open heart.
To gain a more conscious awareness of how we use our eyes, pay attention to how you're using them. Notice if you don't meet someone's gaze. Notice when you do and read more...

Dear K.,
How loving of you to use the word "encourage" rather than "make."
Making noise during sexual play is a total turn-on and helps us know where our partner is in the sexual response cycle. The signs of arousal and stimulation, especially in women, are very hard to read more...

Dear M.,
Guess what: It's very likely that your partner loves your body -- especially if it responds to touch. Your insecurity is about your own fears and projections.
In the South Pacific Islands, the Caribbean and South America, big women love their bodies and aren't afraid to show it. Western read more...

Dear Anne,
This is no one's fault. Approximately 26 percent of women report that they just don't experience orgasmic release.
It's a frustrating problem. I wonder if you have low self-esteem around body issues. Do your husband and friends think you're un-sexy? You might confide in a friend or two read more...

Dear L.,
The philosophy of Tantra invites each of us to explore, create and risk in ways that produce new understanding and new connections with ourselves and in our relationships. By witnessing our partner, seeing and hearing their truth, and honoring them as our teacher and cohort in adventure, read more...

In the tradition of ancient Tantric teachings, one learned the sexual arts from a guru or teacher. Unfortunately for Western culture, we are taught very little about sexuality and sensuality and are all left to reinvent the sexual wheel ourselves. Only a very few succeed at creating the highest read more...

Tantric philosophy has two seemingly different ideas about orgasm, the physical orgasm and the heart orgasm. At first appearance they may seem dualistic and contrary, but on closer inspection one supports the other perfectly.
On the one hand, we're encouraged to be in our hearts 24 hours a day. read more...

Dear M., Great question! Ask yourself, how often have I actually taken the time to discover my partner's erogenous zones? Have I asked her or him what they like, and where and when they like it? When we begin to open up to our partners in these new, subtle ways, we open new doors to a full range of read more...

Dear M.,
You know what? It's very likely that your partner loves your body -- especially if it responds to touch. Your insecurity is about your own fears and projections.
In the South Pacific Islands, the Caribbean and South America, big women love their bodies and aren't afraid to show it. read more...

Dear L.,
The philosophy of Tantra invites each of us to explore, create and risk in ways that produce new understanding and new connections with ourselves and in our relationships. Witnessing our partner, seeing and hearing their truth, and honoring them as our teacher and cohort in adventure sets read more...