Eight Rules to Building a Healthy Relationship

The people who have the kind of relationship most of us want are living according to these laws. You may not like them. You may not believe in them. You may think they do not apply to you. You may think this is just more information that can't really help your love life.

However, the laws are universally true. I did not create these laws, but have observed them in my own life and the lives of clients. I have observed them in the questions I get from readers of this newsletter. I have observed them in the lives of great teachers and ordinary people.

Whether you are single, in a relationship or married, if you apply these laws to your love life, they will yield the soul-satisfying connection you have always wanted. You can have true love and a healthy relationship or marriage, but only if you are willing to learn how to create it.

1. Know what you really want. Understand the kind of partner and relationship or marriage you'd like to have.

2. Believe you will have what you want. Come to believe you will have what you want regardless of evidence, history or logic.

3. Become clear and healthy about relationships. Become a person clear of your history and healthy enough to be capable of having the kind of relationship or marriage you want.

4. Choose wisely. Learn to choose your partners, actions and words wisely, knowing that every action has long-term consequences for you and your love life.

5. Know and understand yourself and people. Know and understand yourself -- your needs, wants, issues, quirks -- and learn to understand other people.

6. Know and understand love, dating, relationships and marriages. Know how relationships grow and develop, and know how to keep a relationship or marriage healthy and thriving. Apply what you know.

7. Grow your emotional maturity. Learn to effectively deal with your emotions and those of others.

8. Act from truth and courage. Be honest with yourself and those you date (or your partner). Be willing to speak up, or take other courageous action, rather than settle, suffer or "put up."