How to Be a Sex Goddess

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Develop Your Social Skills

If you had even three extra minutes a day, sure you could make yourself more interesting and connected to the world. But by the time you get dinner on the table there's no time to chase headlines, let alone make love on the stairs. Here are some easy ways to make sure you're always on everyone's dance card:

Don't Be Shy
Invite people over often, and initiate new friendships. You'll get invited back regularly. And you'll meet all kinds of people who would have otherwise never had the chance to notice how charming you are. And your significant other will notice, too.

Act Like a Sex Goddess

Sex goddesses don't absentmindedly rub the wax out of their ears in public. They don't try to secretly pick food out of their teeth in public or snap their gum. They don't clip their nails in bed, even if they've been married for a gazillion years. Letting it all hang out is not sexy.

Acting like a sex goddess is work. It takes time. It takes planning. It takes restraint. Here's how:

Cultivate a Sexy Body

This doesn't mean a size 6 body. (And it doesn't mean baring your size 6 body if you do have one). It does mean you should think of yourself as a sexy person. It's catching. There are things you can do to make any body sexier:

• Stay Fit: Work out. It feels good. It reminds you what your body can do. Staying fit means having a body that you're at peace with and proud of. And a body whose faults you don't point out to your spouse. If you keep telling him you're fat, he'll eventually believe you.

   

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Dress the Part

Here's the thing. Sexy is strikingly subtle. It's about him looking twice without really understanding why he's doing it. About him groping for words to explain to his pals exactly what it is about you that's giving him palpitations. Sure, if you go the chest spilling out of dress route, you'll get second looks too. But those guys'll know why they're doing it. And it won't be words they'll be groping for.

This isn't to say there's no room in sex-objecthood for stilettos and fishnet. There absolutely is. But it's not in luring a new man to your bed -- it's in keeping the old one there.

By Reshma Memon Yaqub

Girls! (Women, if you prefer, and many of us still do.) Remember the times when you were turned into a sex object by some cad with no couth--and less self-esteem? Using the raw power of your own allure, you turned these raunchy episodes into "relationships"--maybe one, maybe several, but it's been years. Right?