A Spiritual Solution

QUESTION: For almost two years I dated a wonderful guy who loved me no matter what. Then I met a nice, sweet man, and for some reason I had an affair with him. I know it was wrong, it was terrible, but ultimately I fell in love with him and cut my relationship off with the man I had planned to marry.

Lately I've been feeling once again that it's not right and that I'll never feel satisfied. I don't know what to do because the man I was dating before has told me he still loves me and I think I truly do love him. But I have strong feelings for the new man in my life, who has been with me for almost a year now.

I feel like a terrible person for always questioning whether what I'm doing and whom I am with is right. Thank you for any or all advice.

ANSWER: For many of us, the hunger or longing we try to fill with a relationship cannot be filled by a relationship at all, but by something bigger and more soul-satisfying. It is a spiritual hunger, one that can only be filled by a spiritual solution -- whether that be organized religion or your own spiritual path.

You are searching for meaning, for a direction, for something bigger, and yet trying to choose between two relationships as a solution to these needs and questions. Instead, explore religion and/or spirituality until you find something that seems to satisfy the hunger. Then your relationships will fall into place by themselves.

Master Certified Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries coaches singles to attract and build loving, fulfilling, long-term relationships. For more information about Coach Rinatta Paries and the myriad of services she has created for singles, visit her Web site, WhatItTakes.com.