Six Surefire Steps to Becoming a Love Magnet

Do you want to attract true love or improve your relationship so that it turns into true love? Here, I'll show you how to do this by looking and growing within yourself. Turns out that you'll be more likely to get the love and attention you deserve from another person if you put yourself as your first priority.

These six steps will help you get the love you want.

1. Figure Out Your Relationship Patterns
If you're not attracting the right partners or not getting enough love in your relationship, it's probably not the first time in your life. If that's the case, then it's likely you have relationship patterns that are preventing you from behaving in a way that causes love. Get to know your relationship pattern and your love life will improve.

2. Let Go of Your Past
Most people collect unpleasantness without realizing it. Every time something unpleasant happens to you, it goes into a huge sack of other unpleasantness weighing heavily on your back. You can't move forward in life -- especially in relationships --with this baggage.

Even if you don't feel the weight most of the time, you'll feel it in relationships where it takes on forms like excessive anger, an excessive need to control others, fear and anxiety. Want to drop this weight? Then let go of the unpleasantness in your life.

3. Delve Into Your Needs
Everyone has needs -- that's a part of human nature. In fact, our needs create relationships. The giver and the receiver both feel better and more connected when each other's needs are voiced and met. Yet most of us are uncomfortable asking others to meet our needs. At the same time, we all enter relationships to get our needs met. See the paradox?

Figure out your needs, and then figure out which ones need to be met by your partner and which ones need to be met by other people. Then get to it!

4. Draw Your Boundaries
Boundaries are there to protect you and to help you honor your needs and wants. You know you have boundaries when you can choose to say "yes" or "no" to something, someone or a situation.You know you have boundaries when you can stop a situation that's hurting you. You know you have boundaries when you know your needs and ask others to respect them. Having boundaries makes you discerning, gives you self-respect and inspires others to both respect you and treat you well.

5. Know What You Want
Know what you want in a partner and in a relationship. Be careful that what you want is not a fantasy, an unrealistic standard of perfection, or a set of low expectations. Look at the relationships you value most and model your love relationship after those. Keep out people who aren't a match, and invite in those who are. Stop behaving in ways that sabotage what you want in your relationship and instead take action to create what you want.

6. Get Connected
Build a community of people who meet your needs, support you, and nourish you. Many people want to simply find "the one" or hope they have found them, and then proceed to isolate themselves. What a stress on a relationship! Can you put all of your needs, wants, desires and interests on one person? Do you think all of your needs will somehow be met by one Prince or Princess Charming? We all need community. We have too many needs for one person to meet them all. Get connected and stay connected.

Master Certified Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries coaches singles to attract and build loving, fulfilling, long-term relationships.