Romance
The Most Critical 30 Minutes in Dating
There has been a lot of work to do around here lately, so last night it was time to relax a bit. Emily and I decided to rent a movie. The mood struck me for some reason to go old-school and I suggested "Roman Holiday," which seemed a solid choice because 1. We'd been to Rome on our honeymoon last month, 2. Audrey Hepburn looks more like Emily's sister than Emily's sister does (which isn't a bad thing) and 3. unthinkably, neither one of us had never seen this movie before (a first).
So "Roman Holiday" it was. Now I famously can't sit through "chick flicks," even though my own personal "swipe file" of solid dating strategy gleaned from movies is considerable. My silver bullet there, you see, is to watch old movies. A major difference between modern "romantic comedies" and the old-school movies is that real men are portrayed. And these real men are typically attracting real women. All the low-end prurient stuff is absent as is any hint of cultural "feminization," and for some reason, this enhances the demonstration of pure attraction skills at work. All of this, of course, is highly valuable study material when learning how to attract the highest level of woman imaginable. And best of all, nobody seems to be watching these movies nowadays, so doing so is like gaining an unfair advantage.
Now, I could go on about the several different ways in which this movie is a gold mine ... But today we're going to focus on one key, often underestimated and little-understood factor that leading man Gregory Peck is the master of in this particular movie. His character delivers on this principle better perhaps than even Sean Connery's James Bond himself.
I call it "The Most Critical 30 Minutes In Dating." Whether you are a man or a woman, what you do with these thirty minutes will make or break the future of your relationship with whomever you are relating to.
These 30 minutes begin ticking, of course, at the very moment one realizes that his or her date is sexually attracted. And the difference maker is how exactly one reacts to this development.
Women stereotypically have a firm grasp on this concept, as men are similarly stereotyped as telegraphing sexual attraction all too blatantly. Many women instinctively sense just how profound the power is that they hold in such a case, and use it effectively to quite literally cast a spell upon a man and put him under her full control.
Us guys, unfortunately, often have no idea how powerful it is not to be needy when it comes to sexual attention. And worse, once we sense that a woman is "feeling it," we proceed to blow all screaming potential to smithereens.
Why?
Simple. We put too much focus on sex as a "prize," and we forget about the woman ...
But not Gregory Peck's character in "Roman Holiday." When he encounters a presumably "drunk" Audrey Hepburn late at night on a park bench, he reluctantly ends up taking her back to his place. Whether Audrey is really so "disoriented" or not is left to the imagination, but she announces that she plans to undress and go to sleep whether Gregory Peck is standing there or not.
Now at this point, do I need to tell you how most sex-starved guys would act?
Meanwhile, Greg (not yet realizing that Audrey's character is really a princess from a foreign country) furrows his eyebrows at her brattiness and throws a pair of mens pajamas at her. He tells her that he's going to "get coffee" and will be back in five minutes ... and that she'd better not even think about taking the bed.
