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Lovers' Quarrels Have Rules
If you are in a long-term romantic relationship, fighting is inevitable. Before things get out of hand, learn about Fighting Fair at the BabyCenter.
These strategies come from Judith Wallerstein's book, The Good Marriage (Warner Books 1996). She says that an effective fighting style is essential in a successful marriage.
First, agree on how you'll disagree by creating some ground rules, like never going to bed angry. Second, fight nice. Never belittle your spouse. Don't call names, throw blame or drag others into the argument.
Wallerstein says some couples get stuck in the same old argument time and again. Don't have the same fight over and over, and take time out if things get too heated. Finally, make up loudly if you have kids so they learn that parents can disagree and come to a resolution.
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What's Your Romantic Personality?
These strategies come from Judith Wallerstein's book, The Good Marriage (Warner Books 1996). She says that an effective fighting style is essential in a successful marriage.
First, agree on how you'll disagree by creating some ground rules, like never going to bed angry. Second, fight nice. Never belittle your spouse. Don't call names, throw blame or drag others into the argument.
Wallerstein says some couples get stuck in the same old argument time and again. Don't have the same fight over and over, and take time out if things get too heated. Finally, make up loudly if you have kids so they learn that parents can disagree and come to a resolution.
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What's Your Romantic Personality?
