Health
'I Feel Like I'm Addicted to Sex'
Dear Suzie,
Sometimes I feel like I'm addicted to sex and that I'm looking for Tantra to justify that addiction. Any direction you might suggest? -- B.
Dear B.,
Do you find that you have an addictive-type personality in other ways? Are you making love or having sex? Do you become completely vulnerable and open to personal breakthroughs when you make love? Ask yourself these questions.
Tantra and Tantric sex aren't the destination. Tantra is the path or the vehicle to the destination of consciousness and awareness. In essence, Tantra is just another practice like meditation, a deep yogic practice or a spiritual practice. It's not meant as just a pure pleasure indulgence. It uses sexuality, with all of its rawness, social stigma, fear, vulnerability and our lack of knowledge about it to crack open the ego so that we can be present with our lover -- and ultimately, with our self.
When we give ourselves over to vulnerable, open, playful sexuality that pushes our edges and keeps us taking gentle risks to continue our growth, we see how sweet and easy deepening intimacy can be. We love sex because we feel we are getting what we want from it -- conscious intimacy. If you are addicted to sex for sex, you're probably afraid of intimacy.
In ancient India, if you were lucky enough to have a guru, that guru deemed you either worthy or not to study sexual Tantra. It required a certain type of person who was able to worship their given partner as though they were a goddess or god. Though highly sexual, the elaborate rituals were designed as worshipful honoring of the many gods and goddesses in Hinduism. They were not meant as orgies or even for the sexual gratification of the couples. The union had a higher purpose.
We're blessed today with an interest in the renewal of some of the Tantric practices. As westerners, we gravitate towards the lessons in conscious intimacy that Tantra has to offer. In addition, we're attracted to sex education. Most of us know very little about our own bodies and are attracted to information and knowledge.
And, as luck would have it, the growing spiritual seeking that many westerners are involved in fits well with the practices that Tantra offers. To transform your worry over addiction, seek a deeper understanding and vulnerability in your life. If you recognize fear, move toward it, not away from it. You'll know you are on the right path if you do.
Learn about Kama Sutra, Tantra and other sexual disciplines from Suzie Huemann at Tantra.com.
Sometimes I feel like I'm addicted to sex and that I'm looking for Tantra to justify that addiction. Any direction you might suggest? -- B.
Dear B.,
Do you find that you have an addictive-type personality in other ways? Are you making love or having sex? Do you become completely vulnerable and open to personal breakthroughs when you make love? Ask yourself these questions.
Tantra and Tantric sex aren't the destination. Tantra is the path or the vehicle to the destination of consciousness and awareness. In essence, Tantra is just another practice like meditation, a deep yogic practice or a spiritual practice. It's not meant as just a pure pleasure indulgence. It uses sexuality, with all of its rawness, social stigma, fear, vulnerability and our lack of knowledge about it to crack open the ego so that we can be present with our lover -- and ultimately, with our self.
When we give ourselves over to vulnerable, open, playful sexuality that pushes our edges and keeps us taking gentle risks to continue our growth, we see how sweet and easy deepening intimacy can be. We love sex because we feel we are getting what we want from it -- conscious intimacy. If you are addicted to sex for sex, you're probably afraid of intimacy.
In ancient India, if you were lucky enough to have a guru, that guru deemed you either worthy or not to study sexual Tantra. It required a certain type of person who was able to worship their given partner as though they were a goddess or god. Though highly sexual, the elaborate rituals were designed as worshipful honoring of the many gods and goddesses in Hinduism. They were not meant as orgies or even for the sexual gratification of the couples. The union had a higher purpose.
We're blessed today with an interest in the renewal of some of the Tantric practices. As westerners, we gravitate towards the lessons in conscious intimacy that Tantra has to offer. In addition, we're attracted to sex education. Most of us know very little about our own bodies and are attracted to information and knowledge.
And, as luck would have it, the growing spiritual seeking that many westerners are involved in fits well with the practices that Tantra offers. To transform your worry over addiction, seek a deeper understanding and vulnerability in your life. If you recognize fear, move toward it, not away from it. You'll know you are on the right path if you do.
Learn about Kama Sutra, Tantra and other sexual disciplines from Suzie Huemann at Tantra.com.
