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His Lover was His Soul Mate -- Where Does That Leave the Wife?
Dear Suzie,
My husband confessed to having an affair with a woman he described as his soul mate. He said he had never experienced the type of sexual lovemaking with me that he did with her, and that their lovemaking went beyond sex. He loves me and wants to move on with our lives, but I am haunted by all he shared. Is it possible that he and I can achieve this level of intimacy? How can Tantric Sex help us? -- J.
Dear J.,
Congratulations to both of you for deciding to stay together, and to you for seeing the opportunity to grow. Personal inquiry and using our intimate relationships for spiritual growth are the cutting edge of what Tantra is all about.
When your husband says that he thinks this other woman is his soul mate, he may be misinterpreting the experience. It's easy to feel carefree and supportive of a person with whom you don't have to pay the bills, make life decisions or be involved with on a day-to-day basis. Their relationship was very easy compared to the one you share with your husband. But yours is vastly richer.
Practicing Tantric techniques will help both of you refocus and expand your relationship. You'll learn ways of being in your body that you never dreamed possible. The very best thing would be for you to attend a Tantric workshop where I can almost guarantee the two of you will move forward rapidly.
You can check the Tantra.com workshop page, but my personal recommendation is to take a workshop from Charles and Caroline Muir, two well-known teachers I feel are perfect for you and your husband. Together, I also suggest that you and the hubby read a book on Tantra or watch an instructional video before you go. You'll be ahead of the class and get a lot more out of the workshop.
In addition, take classes in yoga and/or meditation. These activities teach us to relax, be in our bodies and adopt simple breathing techniques that facilitate our sexual expansion. Practice your Kegel exercises to help stimulate your awareness of your sensual nature and increase your libido.
You're embarking on a new life journey! Relax, enjoy it and remember your child-like innocence and playfulness. Honor yourself as the Goddess you are.
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Learn about Kama Sutra, Tantra and other sexual disciplines from Suzie Heumann at Tantra.com.
My husband confessed to having an affair with a woman he described as his soul mate. He said he had never experienced the type of sexual lovemaking with me that he did with her, and that their lovemaking went beyond sex. He loves me and wants to move on with our lives, but I am haunted by all he shared. Is it possible that he and I can achieve this level of intimacy? How can Tantric Sex help us? -- J.
Dear J.,
Congratulations to both of you for deciding to stay together, and to you for seeing the opportunity to grow. Personal inquiry and using our intimate relationships for spiritual growth are the cutting edge of what Tantra is all about.
When your husband says that he thinks this other woman is his soul mate, he may be misinterpreting the experience. It's easy to feel carefree and supportive of a person with whom you don't have to pay the bills, make life decisions or be involved with on a day-to-day basis. Their relationship was very easy compared to the one you share with your husband. But yours is vastly richer.
Practicing Tantric techniques will help both of you refocus and expand your relationship. You'll learn ways of being in your body that you never dreamed possible. The very best thing would be for you to attend a Tantric workshop where I can almost guarantee the two of you will move forward rapidly.
You can check the Tantra.com workshop page, but my personal recommendation is to take a workshop from Charles and Caroline Muir, two well-known teachers I feel are perfect for you and your husband. Together, I also suggest that you and the hubby read a book on Tantra or watch an instructional video before you go. You'll be ahead of the class and get a lot more out of the workshop.
In addition, take classes in yoga and/or meditation. These activities teach us to relax, be in our bodies and adopt simple breathing techniques that facilitate our sexual expansion. Practice your Kegel exercises to help stimulate your awareness of your sensual nature and increase your libido.
You're embarking on a new life journey! Relax, enjoy it and remember your child-like innocence and playfulness. Honor yourself as the Goddess you are.
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Learn about Kama Sutra, Tantra and other sexual disciplines from Suzie Heumann at Tantra.com.
