At the beginning of our relationship we had a good sex life, but it has dwindled away.
If I suggest that we have sex, my husband is an eager participant. He has no physical problems. If I don't initiate sex, it rarely happens. The odd thing is that if we haven't had sex for a couple of weeks, my husband starts making comments about the lack of sex, but he never makes them when we can do something about it!
I have repeatedly told him that if he's interested, all he has to do is speak up. He acts as if it is my job to anticipate his needs, and I'm tired of that role. I have told him this, but nothing changes. I believe that he wants more sex, but I am starting to think I might be wrong.
I want him to be happy. What do you think?
ANSWER: In healthy, functioning sexualrelationships, the ability to discuss what's going on in a way that isrespectful, appropriate and productive gets results.
You should try to find out what's really going on. Your husbandmight be having a crisis of confidence. Encouraging him or initiatingsex doesn't necessarily mean that it has become your job to anticipatehis needs -- it might mean simply that he has become passive as a wayto test your relationship and your desires. He should also, for safety's sake, get a thoroughmedical checkup.
For fun and to try to mix this up a little, you two mightdevelop a verbal or visual cue that is subtler than simply asking forsex.
Source: Tulsa World. Powered by Yellowbrix.
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