Dear Suzie,
My boyfriend has so much passion that he can talk me into an orgasm without even touching me. I love him dearly, but I've never experienced this before and it scares me because I'm afraid of getting addicted to this passionate feeling. Is this a real tantra connection? --V.
Dear V.,
You ask a profound question.
First, let me say that it sounds like you're the one with so much passion! It takes a very sensual and tuned-in person to discover energy orgasms without formal instruction.
Consider yourself lucky! By being capable of this level of orgasmic capacity, you can move into the realm of multiple orgasms and the harnessing, so to speak, of this life force energy. You have at your fingertips the tools to expand your orgasms, your heart and your spiritual connection with the divine.
And, yes, there are pitfalls. Passion and Desire can be traps we fall into. But they also can be used to create a higher relationship between you and your partner.
Unless you recognize that this is your energy and that it's your body that's capable of this much sexual turn-on, you'll feel as though someone else has a power over you that will control you.
It's imperative that we as women understand that our partners don't give us orgasms, we give them to ourselves and that we're responsible for our own pleasure. When we learn about ourselves and what we like, and take that pleasure as our birthright, no one can have sexual control over us. You stand as your own being. There's personal power in that place and a deep connection with spirit that enhances our lives when we discover its potential.
Tantra can teach you ways of not only expanding that sexual energy, but harnessing it to shine into the areas of your life that need a little more illumination and personal power. Teach your partner what you already intuitively know, so that he may participate more fully in the sexual magic possible in your relationship.
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Discover more about energy orgasms in the Practices section at Tantra.com.
