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Children Still an Issue in ThirdAge
A woman with three kids dating a mid-40s guy who never had kids says they seem to be perfect for each other. But she asks, "How can I compensate for his desire to have children and my inability to give him any?"
ThirdAge midlife relationships expert Dr. Betty Polston says to take a realistic look at the relationship. The child-bearing issue is a "major discrepancy" that's going to have to be dealt with.
Polston says, "You need to take some growth steps -- namely, a real discussion about what you and your partner want." Think about your respective positions, your options and what you're willing to negotiate.
Polston says, "Your partner may feel outranked in the relationship and want to level the playing field by having a child with you." Think of dealing head on with the debate over children as a rehearsal for your life together.
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Got a question about a midlife relationship? Ask Dr. Betty Polston.
ThirdAge midlife relationships expert Dr. Betty Polston says to take a realistic look at the relationship. The child-bearing issue is a "major discrepancy" that's going to have to be dealt with.
Polston says, "You need to take some growth steps -- namely, a real discussion about what you and your partner want." Think about your respective positions, your options and what you're willing to negotiate.
Polston says, "Your partner may feel outranked in the relationship and want to level the playing field by having a child with you." Think of dealing head on with the debate over children as a rehearsal for your life together.
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Got a question about a midlife relationship? Ask Dr. Betty Polston.
